1. If you have a problem with me, come to me (privately)
2. If I have a problem with you, I'll come to you (privately)
3. If someone has a problem with me and comes to you, send them to me (I will do the same for you)
4. If someone consistently will not come to me say "Let's go to the pastor together. I am sure he will see us about this" (I will do the same for you)
5. Be careful how you interpret me - I'd rather do that. On matters that are unclear, do not feel pressured to interpret my feelings or thoughts. It is easy to misinterpret intentions.
6. I will be careful how I interpret you.
7. If it is confidential don't tell. (This especially applies to leadership meetings) If you come to me in confidence, I won't tell unless (a) the person is going to harm himself/herself, (b) the person is going to physically harm someone else, (c) a child has been physically or sexually abused. I expect the same from you.
8. I do not read unsigned letters or notes.
9. I do not manipulate; I will not be manipulated; do not let others manipulate you. (Do not let others manipulate me through you.)
10. When in Doubt just say so. The only dumb question are those that don't get asked. We are family here and we care about each other, so if you are concerned speak up. If I can answer it without misinterpreting something or breaking confidence I will do so.
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